Dear community, As I delve deeper into decolonising my own work and life, I find myself holding the tension of living within capitalism while trying to live in ways that are healthier and cause less harm. I certainly don't have the answers yet and sit with the tension. Whilst I wrote this, I had flashback to meetings and conferences in countries across the Global South, where traditional dances and rituals were performed. At times, they felt fake. Not because the traditions themselves were...

Dear community When I first started therapy, when Eli was about four, it was partly because I'd realised that when I was activated, I would either go silent or get angry. I started therapy and coaching in tandem because I wanted to both heal and act. I wonder how many of us recognise that pattern? I was reminded of this when Eli and I went to see the latest Spiderman film, where Dr Banner carried so much shame about hulking out. He tried to suppress his rage with a device, which felt like our...

Dear community I was supporting the welfare tent at Medicine Festival last week, and I noticed a pattern among some of the people who came into the space. Many of the women who sought support named quite directly that they were overwhelmed, lonely or needed some support. A number of the men arrived differently. They’d wander in making jokes. Or say they were “just checking the place out.” I’d give them a cup of tea. They’d stay. And then, once they’d relaxed, something would shift. The jokes...